考研英语阅读篇章: 测试异性关系的六个方法
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You're a smart, attractive person, so you wouldn't be surprised if one of
your friends got the hots for you and then started acting all kinds of
crazy.
你聪明，充满吸引力，所以如果你的一个朋友迷上了你，然后为你做出一系列疯狂的举动就不会令人奇怪了。
Your love-struck friend will wonder if you feel the same way, and will
probably dream up subtle tests to find out. They could save themselves some
effort by quickly surveying the scientific literature, though, because they will
almost certainly be following one of six well-trodden(用旧了的) paths.
1. Endurance
This is most common type of test. In this category, the love-struck friend
does their best to test the other person's feelings by fishing for compliments
or demanding help especially if it comes at a cost to the other.
A classic endurance gambit(话题) is the self-put-down. As one respondent
recalled: "He was really getting down on himself, saying he wasn't a very
capable or nice person. He said it to get me to compliment him and verbalise how
much I thought of him."
Another type of endurance test is called forced choice, in which your
friend wants to see if you will drop everything for them. "She came to where I
work out and said that she was really depressed but didn't want to bother me,"
said one man in his interview. "She really wanted to see if I would stop what I
was doing and show my concern, indicating how much I care for her."
Finally, enamoured friends will behave like spoiled brats, pushing their
friend's buttons to see how much mistreatment they will put up with without
complaining, will you still like them even when they're being a pain?
2. Triangulation
The second most popular type of test was dubbed the triangle, because it
relies on the age-old saying "three's a crowd".
Some people engineer "fidelity checks", especially if the relationship has
already strayed beyond the platonic(理想的). One of the interviewees wanted to test
if her boyfriend was as keen as she was. "I would intentionally leave him alone
with my room-mate and then ask him when I returned 'What have the two of you
been up to?' If he acted uncomfortable, I would know that he wasn't faithful or
at least that he was thinking about being unfaithful to me."
Others employ jealousy tests: "I tested her limits by going out with other
women and making sure that she found out about it. I wanted to know what kind of
relationship commitment she wanted," said one man.
3. Hint, hint
Then there are the indirect suggestion tests: joking about serious
feelings, hinting or getting increasingly intimate with bodily contact. "When we
were just becoming romantic, he kept getting more and more bold with his
touching, first his arm around my shoulder, then moving in real close, etc. He
was waiting to see if I would tell him when to stop as a sign of how much I
liked him," said one interviewee.
4. Miss me?
Distance is supposed to make the heart grow fonder, and indeed physical
separation is a common test. One respondent admitted: "To see if our
relationship was really strong I tested it by going overseas for a few
months."
If you have felt like you didn't want to be the first to call, you could be
using another separation test called initiation induction. "When I returned from
Switzerland, he didn't call me even though he knew exactly when I was returning.
He wanted to see if I still felt the same way about him by calling him first,"
one woman recalls.
5. Heart to heart
The directness test is really the opposite of a secret strategy. Far more
popular with men than women, it involves either asking a person straight out how
they feel, or speaking openly about yourself in the hope your love interest will
too.
"I was having trouble getting him to open up to me about his family and his
background," one woman said, "so I started talking about my folks and sisters,
hoping that he would reciprocate and tell me about himself as a sign that he
trusted me and wanted me to know more about him."
6. Inside information
Ever tried to find out from someone's friends whether they might have a
crush on you? Then you have employed what Baxter and Wilmot aptly call asking
third party tests. It might sound like playground behaviour, but grown-ups do it
too.
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